Akelapan, Muashrati Dabao aur Naye Aghaz ki Talash: Shagufta ki Kahani
Hamare muashre mein shadi ko ek muqaddas bandhan mana jata hai, lekin kabhi kabhi halaat aur naseeb insaan ko us mor par le aate hain jahan raste juda karna hi behtar lagta hai. Magar masla talaq par khatam nahi hota, balkay khusoosan ek aurat ke liye wahan se ek naye imtihan ka aghaz hota hai. “Talaq yafta, 27 sala Shagufta, akeli rehti hoon, ami abu nahi hain—koi nikah kare”—yeh mahaz ek jumla nahi, balkay hamare muashre ki us talkh haqeeqat ka akas hai jahan ek aurat sahare aur tahaffuz ke liye pukar rahi hai.
1. Bekas o Madadgar: Maa Baap ka Saya Na Hona
Ek aurat ke liye us ka sab se bara qila us ke maa baap ka ghar hota hai. Jab sar se maa baap ka saya uth jaye, to dunya ki dhoop zyada taitz mehsoos hone lagti hai. Shagufta jaisi khawateen, jo 27 saal ki umar mein zindagi ke is mor par hain jahan un ke paas na purani shadi ka sahara hai aur na hi maa baap ki diwar, woh khud ko nihayat kamzor mehsoos karti hain.
Maa baap ki gair-maujoodgi mein bhai-behan ya deegar rishtedar aksar bojh samajhne lagte hain ya phir un ki dilchaspi khatam ho jati hai. Aise mein ek aurat ka akelay rehna usay na sirf zehni aziyat mein mubtala karta hai balkay muashre ke “shikari” ruiyon ka nishana bhi banata hai.
2. Talaq: Ek Gunah ya Taqdeer?
Hamare muashre mein talaq yafta aurat ko aaj bhi ek makhsoos nazar se dekha jata hai. Log yeh nahi puchte ki “talaq kyun hui?” balkay aksar aurat ko hi qasoorwar thehra diya jata hai. 27 saal ki umar, jo ke zindagi ki bahar hoti hai, us mein “talaq yafta” ka thappa lag jana bohat se darwaze band kar deta hai.
Lekin hamein yeh samajhna hoga ke:
- Nikah ek muahida hai: Agar yeh kisi wajah se toot jaye, to is ka matlab yeh nahi ki zindagi khatam ho gayi.
- Islam mein ijazat: Hamara deen talaq yafta ya bewa khawateen ke naye aghaz aur nikah-e-sani ki bharpoor hosla afzai karta hai.
3. Tanha Aurat aur Muashrati Tahaffuz
Jab koi aurat yeh kehti hai ke “main akeli rehti hoon,” to yeh us ki azadi ka elan nahi balkay us ki be-basi ki pukar hoti hai. Pakistan jaise muashre mein ek akeli aurat ke liye ghar kiraye par lena, daftar mein kaam karna, ya bazaar jana bhi dushwar kar diya jata hai. Log us ki tanhai ko us ki kamzori samajhte hain.
Shagufta ka nikah ki khuahish karna koi gunah ya sharam ki baat nahi hai. Yeh us ka bunyadi haq hai ke woh ek ba-izzat zindagi guzare aur usay ek aisa sathi miley jo usay tahaffuz aur naya ghar de sakay.
4. Rishtey ki Talash mein Mushkilaat
Aaj kal ke dour mein munasib rishta milna waise hi mushkil hai, aur agar baat ek talaq yafta aurat ki ho jis ka koi sar-parast (guardian) na ho, to mushkilaat dou-guna ho jati hain.
- Sincere rishton ki kami: Aksar log hamdardi ke bahane galat irade rakhte hain.
- Umr ka taqaza: 27 saal ki umr mein log kunwari larki ki talash karte hain, jabki talaq yafta mard bhi aksar kunwari larki se shadi ki zidd karte hain.
- Mali istemal: Baaz auqat log aurat ki jayedad ya naukri dekh kar rishta karte hain, na ke us ki shaksiyat dekh kar.
5. Nikah-e-Sani: Ek Nayi Umeed
Shagufta ke liye aur us jaisi hazaron khawateen ke liye hal sirf ek hi hai: Ek ba-himmat aur sacha mard. Ek aisa insaan jo mazi ko bhula kar haal aur mustaqbil ki bunyad rakhay. Nikah sirf jinsi zaroorat nahi, balkay zehni sukoon, dosti aur ek dusre ka libas banne ka naam hai.
“Tumhari biwiyaan tumhara libas hain aur tum un ka libas ho.” (Al-Quran)
6. Muashre ke Liye Paigham
Hamein apne ruiyon mein tabdeeli lani hogi.
- Rishtedaron ka kirdar: Agar Shagufta ke aziz o aqarib hain, to unhain chahiye ke usay bojh samajhne ke bajaye us ki behtareen jagah shadi karwane mein madad karein.
- Mardan-e-Hur ka kirdar: Ba-shaoor mardon ko chahiye ke woh Sunnat-e-Nabwi (S.A.W) ko zinda karte hue talaq yafta ya be-sahara khawateen se nikah ko bais-e-fakhar samjhein.
- Digital Platform ka sahi istemal: Online rishta websites ya social media par aise cases ko sanjidagi se lena chahiye, na ke mazaq udaya jaye.
Ikhtitami Alfaz
Shagufta ki pukar darasal un tamam khawateen ki awaz hai jo khamoshi se tanhai ki dhoop mein jal rahi hain. 27 saal ki umar koi bari umar nahi hai. Zindagi dobara shuru ki ja sakti hai. Zarurat sirf is baat ki hai ke koi aisa mard agay aaye jo usay mahaz “talaq yafta” na dekhe, balkay ek insan, ek biwi aur ek ghar ki rani ke roop mein qabool kare.
Tanha aurat ka koi ghar nahi hota, lekin jab usay nikah ka tahaffuz mil jata hai, to woh poori ek nasal ki tarbiyat karti hai. Allah se dua hai ke Shagufta aur us jaisi har beti ko behtareen naseeb aur sacha hamsafar ata farmaye.
